Demystifying Soul Mates – Part I

The shops are decked out in red. Cherubs and cut-out hearts dangle from store ceilings. And high-street windows are full of chocolates. That can only mean one thing – it’s Valentine’s Day. Or rather, it will be in a few short days. So whether you are in a relationship or flying solo it’s hard right now not to find yourself contemplating matters of the heart.

It’s also one of the busiest times of year for us psychics.

With heart strings sufficiently tugged, everyone wants to find out the scoop on their love life. The questions I get are as varied and individual as my clients are. Of course there are themes that pop up again and again. They range from the classic ‘when will I find love?’ to the complex ‘how do I get out of this love triangle?’. But more often than not, people want to know when they are going to meet ‘the one’. So this past week I found myself wondering:

When is your mate your soul mate?

Soul mate. Two little words. One big concept. And like so many others, it’s evolved over time to mean something different in common parlance. Today we use the term ‘soul mate’ quite freely and often without a second thought. How many times have we heard someone declare that they’ve just met their soul mate after their first date?

That’s right, today’s take on soul mates generally limits it to romantic love. It’s used to describe love at first sight, or what the French brilliantly call a coup de foudre. We tend to think of a soul mate as someone whom we are destined to meet, fall in love with and live happily ever after with. Or in the vernacular, it’s ‘the one’. Personally, I find this interpretation a bit too restrictive and can turn our search for love into something that more closely resembles a quest for yet another Holy Grail.

The original concept of a soul mate is found in theories of reincarnation. At the risk of oversimplification, reincarnation dictates that we are born and die not just once but a number of times. Each time we return, we are charged with learning lessons from the previous life. The goal is to gain sufficient wisdom and insights to evolve beyond human incarnations. And while many find the premise of returning from the dead difficult to swallow, it’s hard to refute the documented cases where people are able to recount verifiable details of their supposed past lives. But that’s a whole other story…

So within the context of reincarnation, a soul mate is simply someone your soul has known in a previous life. That explains why we feel so comfortable with and close to some people as soon as we meet them. It’s an immediate and intense attraction. Some philosophers have described it as an interpersonal déjà vu.

People tend to limit their thinking about soul mates to just one person. But in fact, during a series of lifetimes you encounter any number of fellow souls. They then form what is known as your soul group. Is everyone you know in your group? Hardly. It’s more or less reserved for those people in your life for whom you experience deep and intense feelings because they are the ones who are working with you to teach your karmic lessons – reaping what you sow and all that.

While it’s true that soul mates encompass romantic love, they also function on many other levels. We find soul mates who embody friendship as well as every other type of love. Hence, your soul mate could be your mother, father, sister, brother, next door neighbour or even work colleague. We should open ourselves up to expanding our notions of soul mates to include anyone with whom we connect at a very deep level.

Sometimes, however, it’s not that easy to identify our soul mates and to understand the lessons they are working with us to learn. For example, just because we are intimate with someone or have an affinity with them doesn’t necessarily mean that they are a soul mate. The key is to identify the type of bond shared and the task that the two individuals are working on.

Through my readings, I work with many clients to uncover such issues where they are not obvious in order to facilitate their development in this incarnation. Perhaps a reading could assist you in understanding your dealings with someone who may or may not be a soul mate? If you’re not sure, just email me and and ask.

Please join me next week as I continue with the concept of soul mates when I explore why being in a romantic relationship with a soul mate can be a very bumpy ride indeed.

As always, feel free to email me with any comments, suggestions or feedback on PsychicBridges.

Thanks again for all your support and until next week,

Kindest regards,

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