When you need help, you can get it. But you have to ask for it!

In rural communities, each season brings its own set of jobs. And now that we’re in the throes of spring, I have had to quickly get to grips one of the most challenging jobs of my life – shearing sheep.

It sounds simple enough – you catch the ewe or ram and start clipping. Well, there’s the first problem – actually managing to get your hands on it. I must say that the flock I inherited with the purchase of my smallholding are for all intents and purposes wild. The previous owner saw them once, twice a week. And as for any maintenance, let’s just say that it was what you might call a rather Darwinian approach.

First, I had to build a new shelter and enclosure into which I could lure my ever suspicious flock. Then I had to engage in a few trust-building exercises. You see, I needed them to begin to regard me as their new shepherd – a first for them as well as me, I should think.

I had decided long ago that as proud owner of my flock it was my duty to shear them personally. No hired-hands need apply. To me, it seemed to go part and parcel with ownership. Naturally, I did lots of reading. But I kept getting the feeling that all these books were written for those with rather substantial flocks. Intuitively, I sensed that I could do it.

And having sheared my 4 ewes and 2 rams (not an ideal mix!), I think I’ve managed to get my eye in. Each day I took one in turn. And even if I do say so myself, each one came out looking more and more professionally groomed and not like some haircut your mum used to give you before you returned to school after the summer break.

But during the shearing process, I began to notice something really remarkable. Instead of running away and cowering in some remote part of the pasture, the remaining sheep started queuing. It was as if they could appreciate that after the indignity of it all they would look and feel so much better.

My sheep seemed to understand that they needed help and that I was there to give it to them. And more importantly, their actions suggested that they were saying, in the only way they knew how, “I’ll have some of that, please.” And so I wondered this week,

When help presents itself, why don’t we take it?

At the risk of stating the obvious, we are human and we are not sheep. And yet there are so many times when we merely follow the flock instead of doing what’s right for us or taking into account our own individual needs. Why?

I suppose some people see it as weakness. We are taught as children that we should be able to solve our own problems and that to be successful we should be independent. Others may not want to burden someone else with their problems. Others still fear what the solution might entail. They understand the problem that’s known and familiar – but the solution could involve the unknown. And there are, of course, those of us who are simply embarrassed by the problem or situation we find ourselves in.

But I suspect that one of the major reasons people don’t ask for help is that they don’t realise that they need it. That’s why it is crucial for each one of us to take a hard look at our lives from time to time. This is when we must ask ourselves what is and is not working. When was the last time you stepped back to look at what you’ve been doing, thinking and feeling? If you can’t remember, then it’s been too long.

Naturally, that’s just the first step. You know it – it’s when you admit that there is in fact a problem. The next step is the really difficult one, but it’s also the most empowering. You have to take responsibility. More times than not, what you are going to do to get yourself out of a mess is more important than how you got there. One caveat would surely be that you also take steps to ensure you don’t end up there again.

It doesn’t matter who you are or your situation, help is always available. That means you never have to struggle all by yourself. No-one can solve all of their problems on their own. In fact, acknowledging one’s need for assistance or guidance can be a great release. Just because the going gets tough doesn’t mean you have to go it alone. But help won’t arrive unless you take that first step and ask for it.

Perhaps you believe that people cannot change. It’s possible you might believe that changing is too hard. Or you might believe that there is no way out. If any of this sounds familiar, then you’ve got some work to do. Why? Well, because every thought, attitude and belief has a direct energetic consequence. And like energy attracts like. So those who believe that life won’t work out create (read attract) a reality in which it doesn’t.

This week’s Weekly Words column at IntuitiveBridges is the second instalment of The Chakra Series, featuring the First Chakra or as I call it the Culture Chakra. It’s all about how our culture teaches us what to believe – for better or for worse – and then how we have to challenge what we’ve been fed to form our own personal code of conduct. Is it real? Absolutely. Does it matter? Well, it can make the difference between health and illness. Read my article in full.

Through my psychic readings together with my holistic health services such as my Medical Intuitive Assessments, I offer my clients insights into what’s working and what’s not working for them. I empower them to take control by highlighting their negative belief patterns and by pointing out the energetic consequences in their lives. I even work one-to-one to get them back on track via my life coaching.

How’s your life going? Are you where you want to be? Or are you depressed or stuck in a rut? Perhaps a reading or an intuitive assessment could help. Have a look at my psychic readings here and my holistic health services here, including my Intuitive Life Coaching. Isn’t it time you empowered yourself to take control of your life?

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Thanks again for all your support and until next week,

Kindest regards,

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