This week I want to start with something of a confession. So, let’s just lay this one on the table and get it out into the open. When I was a kid, I went through a phase of being one incredibly spoilt and very annoying brat. It wasn’t cute. It wasn’t funny. And, for my parents, it wasn’t cheap. Even to this day I still cringe when I dare to recall it all.

Despite a decent education, my vocabulary, during this period, was seemingly limited to “I” followed immediately by “want”. And while I was clever enough to attend university lectures in my early teens, the concept of having to wait was something that I just couldn’t get my head around. I wanted what I wanted and I wanted it right then, right there.

I remember with horror how I thought that life could not go on without Ralph Lauren Polo shirts or Calvin Klein jeans. Then there was the time that I swore that, having passed my driving test, I would be happy forevermore as soon as my customised Golf, imported specially from Germany, with Blaupunkt stereo arrived.

Granted as I got each of my “toys”, I was happy – for a time. But then, I needed something else to be happy. I was such a broken record – I could and would only be happy if I had this or that. And so, it continued until – thank God – I outgrew this phase sometime while away at university.

All of that was way back when in the 1980’s. Times were different and yet they were a lot like now – or at least they were until the credit crunch.

Our consumerist society has been at an all-time peak. While the fits of this former brat are long gone, demands for instant gratification can still be heard in many shops and even more houses. And based on what I hear from my clients, many of us are still singing that refrain that they will be happy when they have or get this or that.

What is it that you need to be happy? Will more money make you happy? Will you be happy when all your debts are paid? What about love? Will that perfect partner make you happy? Do you need to shed some weight before you can be happy? Or do you still need to climb a few more rungs up the career ladder to finally become a member of the happy club?

Having been someone who once pinned his happiness on things or situations beyond my control, it saddens me when I encounter friends, family members or clients who tell me that they will be happy when…

I used to launch myself into full life-coach mode whenever someone happened to speak the “I’ll be happy when” phrase. I would try to get them to see that happiness comes from within. I wanted to do whatever it took to force them to appreciate that the kind of happiness they sought would be fleeting. I set as my goal making them understand that there would inevitably be another requirement before they could be happy.

I’m not sure that I ever convinced anyone. Maybe it was me. Maybe it’s not possible for that lesson to be taught by someone else. Maybe we have to learn it for ourselves when we’re good and ready.

So, I’m not going to tell you to stop creating requirements for your happiness. You’ve got them. And you’re going to cling to them. I’m at peace with that. However, I would encourage you to strongly consider what it is that stands between you and your happiness.

It’s truer now than perhaps any other time in collective memory that we live in uncertain times. Just a few years ago our jobs were safe. We knew that the money we had in the bank was secure. Our investments in bricks and mortar forming the roofs over our heads were, to rely on that cliché, safe as houses.

Then it all changed. Little, if anything, seems so secure. Even the most calculated risk must now be re-evaluated. And so, I encourage you to reconsider what it is that you’re banking on for your happiness.

Every day I’m contacted by people wanting to find out what I can perceive about where their lives are going. Where will the restructuring at work leave them? Is their partner straying? How will they find that special someone if they are unemployed? Are they going to be forced to move because of their debts? And then, what’s all this stress doing to their health and energy systems?

As I’ve said, I will stop myself from preaching the happiness-comes-from-within sermon. People don’t listen – especially when the message is one that they don’t want to hear or that they have heard before. No, you won’t get it from me now. But I will offer my psychic and intuitive abilities to try to help you see what’s coming in your career, love life, finances, health, etc.

You’ll still say to me that you’ll be happy when… But perhaps I can help you become forearmed by forewarning you with my psychic insights. Keep your requirements that you need to be happy. But let’s find out where you stand. Is it just around the corner? Or should you start to manage your expectations a bit – or even a lot?

Have a look at my psychic readings and intuitive services. Maybe it’s time for a Career Reading. A Relationship Reading could be just what you need. The standard 2-question Email Reading is an old favourite. And perhaps it’s a sign of the times that my comprehensive Medical Intuitive Reading is more popular than ever. Stop wondering how you’re doing with your happiness and book your reading today!

And this week over at IntuitiveBridges, I encourage everyone to consider how they are going to handle the change that is being forced upon us from nearly every direction. Can you handle it? If so, how? And if not, then perhaps I can assist. Read my article in full here!

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Thanks again for all your support and until next week,

Kindest regards,

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